Here at work...getting ready to head to Vegas for 2 days to visit the family! Then back on Sat for fabfemme prep for the ball and Chosen Family Holiday Party (I'll make sure to post pics) in the meantime, if I could just get some hot Bois/Butchas/Studs looking like this under my tree *giggle* hi babe.. look at all this style and swagg...yummm
I've been soo busy lately but I thought I'd give a little update.
I spent 12 glorious days with my love in The 'Lou (St. Louis) I met her family (cousins, mom, granny, aunt) it was so nice to be in a space where I wasn't 'the friend' *sigh of relief* St. Louis is beautiful. I do admit that before I went, I had the whole 'LA is sooo much better than the Midwest' mentality well after being there for 12 days, I can say that I love it there. I don't know if I could live there b/c it's soo cold (I actually did get sick, this Cali girl can't do under 30 degrees) but I did enjoy the laid back-ness and the beauty of it all. (I most loved ALL the parks, there are about a bazillion parks in St. Louis) I loved the beautiful homes with exposed brick and the non fenced in front yards. I did several things during those days, but of course the best was being there with my love, cooking meals, and spending time together-catching a glimpse of our future together (We even hosted a drinks and desserts mixer for her friends one of the days-I made my famous white sangria)
Now my days are spent trying to work hard and trying to get my life in order. I'm doing a pretty good job of it, I think. I got promoted in October, I got a new car shortly after that and other than my car, my debt is pretty much nil. This year will be focused on saving for our move together this time next year (yay!)
I'm also excited because The Ball is quickly approaching! I had my first fitting of my custom made ball gown this Saturday!! My designer Jomo Patterson is Amazing! He's making the dress of my dreams! If I ever get married, he's soo making my dress!!! I have my hair/make up appointment set and also have an appointment for eyelash extensions! I've never gotten them before, but saw a client get them today and they look great! They last 6 weeks not too bad! Jess found the jacket she's wearing yesterday and I found her shoes online too! I got her boutonniere from Erica Cavanagh on ETSY (love that site!) I have another fitting this Saturday and then I get to pick up my dress. I've been trying to work on my fitness and have lost some weight, so I'm uber excited!!!! Need to find shoes and a clutch and everything will be done!
Soo much has happened since the last time I REALLY updated this blog...one thing that kind of caught me by surprise was seeing Hir at the Day of the Dead festival. I really won't go into too much detail. It was just sad to hear people talk about how intoxicated and how much Hir and Hir girlfriend were making fools out of themselves *smh*
Jess pointed this song out to me about a month ago and...well just watch the video (I've posted the lyrics under it)...very...um...yeah. (I could have really written this song...and Jess could have done the remix aka been Luda) #justsayin
Letoya Luckett feat Ludacris – Regret Lyrics
[Ludacris] uh uh he don’t deserve you, serve you, he gon regret that he hurt you, hurt you (x2) Letoya,
[LeToya] I made you cool, you wasn’t dat dude, until I started f-cking with you, gave you swag (swag) and a duffle bag, you left the best you had now you gon act like that, i got you right, i changed your life, suicide doors, side co-sign, Gucci rags, louie travel bag, you left the best you had, baby don’t look so mad,
[Chorus] You must regret the day that you left me You must regret the day that you left me still trying to get back (get back) still trying to get back (back, back with me) still trying to get back (back, back with me) ooohhhh
VIP, its all on me, and now you at the bar with 1, 2 drinks, popping game, you look so lame, without me your pimping ain’t the same, first class flights, dipped in lights, I had your neck and wrist oh so bright, popping tags is a thing of the past, you lost everything you had chasing those scallywags,
[Chorus]
[Ludacris] he he, listen hey sexy, tell em that its over, tell em you my baby, and my coup is your stroller, tell em this louis Vuitton scarf is your bib, or that you call me daddy and my house is your crib, and if he cries I know how to control that, give him some bottles of this conjure cognac, just to shut him up, she said you wasn’t half the man I am so I guess you had to double up, he still trying to get back like the soldiers, dreaming and then its time to wake him up like Folgers, i just hold her, you used put a load of sh-t up on the brain, but you lame now its over, i keep her by my side like a holster,
I plan to make a full house and I ain’t talking bout Poker, but i might poke her and just stroke her, cos i’m about treat her like a real man supposed ta, Luda, ha
[Chorus]
[Ludacris Talking over chorus] I know you regret it homie, you dropped your dime and i picked it up, shes mine, you cant have her back imma treat her like a queen that she is, man, teach you a lesson! [Lyrics courtesy of Killerhiphop.com]
Well I'm outta here for a min...I'm going to TRY and update on a more regular basis, but if you want 'regular' updates, follow me on twitter. You can find me under @laura_luna
Call for Workshops, Papers, Performance, and Art* Femme of Color Symposium (FOCS) 2010: Celebrations and Reflections March 27-28, 2009 Astor Crowne Plaza 739 Canal Street New Orleans, Louisiana 70130 www.focs2010.com
FOCS2010: Celebrations and Reflections, the inaugural symposium by and for self-identified FEMMES of COLOR, will create the opportunity—through workshops, community building/social activities, presentations, panels, and/or performances—to uncover and discover our similarities, our differences, our needs and how to build the bridges that will allow us to support each other in all of who we are. It will serve as a launch point for a real-time and virtual nation-wide network of diverse individuals, prompt dialogue, and empower us to cultivate, sustain, and celebrate the vibrant connections we have made and will make among femmes of color.
We invite femmes of color from all over the map—community members, artists, academics, homemakers, activists, etc.—to participate in FOCS2010 as presenters and participants.
Submissions of all kinds are welcome. In particular, we hope that the intersections of femme with race, region, class, faith, access, ability, privilege, and marginalization will be talked about, given space, meditated upon, constructed, and deconstructed.
We hope to draw participants from across disciplinary, medium, and social boundaries. We encourage submissions from anyone interested, regardless of sexual identity. We do ask that you read our mission statement before submitting. Though we would not be able to live, love and/or laugh without our many allies, this conference is for self-identified femmes of color only.
We are soliciting contributions from any woman who is interested, including (but not limited to):
> workshops > performances > research presentations > skill shares > activist & organizational topics > visual art > video or film
Submission deadline is December 7, 2009.
To submit a proposal, please submit the following to us at
http://www.focs2010.com/index.php/the-program
*For research presentations, send a 300 word abstract *For workshop and skillshare proposals, send a 300 word description of your workshop or skillshare ideas *Visual artists should send samples of work and a 300 word description of their artistic vision *Performers, filmmakers and other creative artists should contact us for more information
To learn more about us, our mission and to contact us with any questions, comments or concerns, please find us at our website:
I can't even promise that I'll do a 'regular' post anytime soon. I just got promoted (woot woot..but a TON of work)and life is crazy (holidays are coming up...) so I'm sorry to all of my handful of readers. If you have a blog and you're on my google reader (most of you are) know that I'm following your life and send you all big *fab femme kisses*
I hope you all are having a happy fall. I just spent the most glorious weekend in St. Louis, MO (I surprised my gf at her doorstep last Friday)
so I'm sorry for the lack of posts but please know that I'm good and of course FIERCELY and FABULOUSLY in LOVE. (this is a pic of us last weekend at Novacks (a gay club in STL)
This post will not be long...too many things going on...blessings are abundant even in times of hardship...
This video makes me happy..and makes me wanna say 'where's my cage/diamond heels?'
(of course I like the Spanish version better)
Loba-Shakira
Sigilosa al pasar Sigilosa al pasar Esa loba es especial Mirala, caminar caminar
Quién no ha querido a una diosa licántropa En el ardor de una noche romantica Mis aullidos son el llamado Yo quiero un lobo domesticado
Por fin he encontrado un remedio infalible que borre del todo la culpa No pienso quedarme a tu lado mirando la tele y oyendo disculpas la vida me ha dado un hambre voráz y tu apenas me das caramelos Me voy con mis piernas y mi juventúd por ahí aunque te maten los celos
CH Una loba en el armario Tiene ganas de salir Deja que se coma el barrio Antes de irte a dormir
Tengo tacones de aguja magnetica Para dejar a la manada frenetica La luna llena como una fruta No da consejos ni los escucha
Llevo conmigo un radar especial para localizar solteros Si acaso me meto en aprietos tambien llevo el número de los bomberos ni tipos muy lindos ni divos ni niños ricos yo se lo que quiero www.musicloversgroup.com pasarla muy bien y portarme muy mal en los brazos de algún caballero
Una loba en el armario Tiene ganas de salir Deja que se coma el barrio Antes de irte a dormir
Cuando son casi la una la loba en celo saluda a la luna Duda si andar por la calle o entrar en un bar a probar fortuna Ya está sentada en su mesa y pone la mira en su proxima presa Pobre del desprevenido que no se esperaba una de esas
Sigilosa al pasar Sigilosa al pasar Esa loba es especial Mirala caminar, caminar
Deja que se coma el barrio Antes de irte a dormir
She Wolf-Shakira SOS she’s in disguise SOS she’s in disguise There’s a she wolf in disguise Coming out Coming out Coming out
A domesticated girl that’s all you ask of me Darling it is no joke, this is lycanthropy The moon’s awake now with eyes wide open My body is craving, so feed the hungry
I’ve been devoting myself to you Monday to Monday and Friday to Friday Not getting enough retribution or decent incentives to keep me at it I’m starting to feel just a little abused like a coffee machine in an office So I’m gonna go somewhere closer to get me a lover and tell you all about it
There’s a she wolf in the closet Open up and set her free There’s a she wolf in your closet Let it out so it can breathe
Sitting across a bar staring right at her prey It’s going well so far, she’s gonna get her way Nocturnal creatures are not so prudent The moon’s my teacher, and I’m her student
To locate the single man, I’ve got on me a special radar And the fire department hotline in case I get in trouble later Not looking for cute little divas or rich city guys, I just want to enjoy By having a very good time and behave very bad in the arms of a boy
There’s a she wolf in the closet Open up and set her free There’s a she wolf in your closet Let it out so it can breathe
SOS she’s in disguise SOS she’s in disguise There’s a she wolf in disguise Coming out Coming out Coming out
SOS she’s in disguise SOS she’s in disguise There’s a she wolf in disguise Coming out Coming out Coming out
There’s a she wolf in your closet Let it out so it can breathe
Yes I'm cheesy..but who cares?! *giggle* this is MY blog and I will be cheesy if I want to!
So, today is the start of a new week and it's a very important week for Jess and I. I know she has my blog on her Google Reader (hi babe) so I just want to start my week by telling her how I feel about her..
Babe, I know this week is going to be very stressful and crazy for you, I know that your job has soo many demands on your 24 year old self. I just want to let you know that I love who you are and what you do. I love that at 24 you have the drive and fervor to be a union organizer AND a graduate student. I am so proud of all you have accomplished in your young life. I love that you've lobbied in DC for HRC, worked to help get Obama elected, and that you're a Sue Shear Fellow. I love that when you were in HS you decided that you wanted to go to an HBCU and got into TSU. I love that you have decided to carefully balance all this and be a 'fiscally independent' young woman living on her own without the help of anyone (I love that you said that this weekend) and of course the big stressor of the week which is part of my love as well...I love that you have taken the time to study for and take the LSAT this Saturday and want to go to law school. However, I want you to know that my love for you goes beyond all these accomplishments (even though you know how I feel about them) I love the gentle and loving way that you speak to your kitty cat, Jazz. I love the way that you are trying to learn as much as you can about my culture (including the way that you 'get' my dislike for the term 'Hispanic), I love that you love me even when sometimes I feel I am not capable of being loved. I love that when I bring up my ice-queen/hurt 'can't-forget-the-pain'-ness you just tell me that you will still be there and just keep loving me harder. I love waking up in the middle of the night, looking at my phone and seeing that you're still there 4 hours later, sleeping, but still there. I love when I am able to cuddle into your arms when we sleep together, in your arms I know that I am forever safe. Sometimes I worry that you think that my love for you rests on all the former and future accomplishments that you have achieved. I hear sometimes the uneasiness is your voice when you feel like you will 'fail' and all the 'what if's' what if you don't get into so and so school, 'what if' you don't get a 'good' score etc. I just want to let you know that I am proud of you NO MATTER WHAT. Yep, I said it. As much as it would be nice to say 'my gf is an attorney' the thing that matters the most to me is that you love me, and you already do, so I'm ok. You can take the test and get a great score or get a low score, I'm still in it to win it. I'm sorry that I'm sooo far away and can't take you out to get ice cream after you take the test :( But I promise you a trip to Millions of Milkshakes for your next LA trip. :)
I wish you much success on your test but most of all I want you to know how proud I am of you for even coming this far.
